Dealing with Heartbreak, and the Heartache that Follows.posted by in Russ Whitney
The pain of heartbreak can be as real as the pain from getting slapped in the face (not that we condone slapping), except that, with a slap, at least the pain subsides after a few minutes. The pain cause by getting your heart broken seems to last for a lot longer, and can sometimes seem like it’s never going to end.
Like many of you, Russ Whitney went through the heartbreak of a divorce and he wasn’t ready for the consequences it would have on his life.
The pain does end however and, although it’s not always easy, there are a few things that you can do to lessen the hurt and even learn from it.
The first is to give yourself time to grieve. Like the loss of anyone in your life, when a relationship ends you’re going to feel sadness. It’s ok to feel it, at least for a few days, so go right ahead.
Once you feel like you can handle it, reach out to someone close that you trust to keep you calm, give you good feedback and just be there to listen to you.
In today’s world it’s also a good idea to get your Ex out of your online life. It might not be easy but removing them from your social accounts is vital. There’s an old saying that goes ‘out of sight, out of mind’ and, if you keep seeing your Ex (and what they’re doing) on social media it will make things tougher, so just do it and delete them.
Getting out and doing something new and/or different is an excellent idea after a breakup too, so that you can possibly make new friends and keep your mind off of the situation. Take up bowling, join a dance studio and make some fresh, new memories.
Speaking of memories, make a pact with yourself that you’re not going to look at old photos, videos, letters and so forth that include your Ex for at least a month, if not longer. Avoid listening to songs you both liked too, if you can. You don’t have to get rid of that stuff completely, but putting it aside for now will certainly help.
It is important to remember when you feel the pain of a breakup that the pain is temporary. You may feel like it will never end, but trust me, it will! It always does, and when it does it will make way for new love and happy times. So have the following statement on repeat in your head while you are going through it. “This pain is temporary and will stop soon”.
Finally, there’s one last thing that’s vitally important if you want to leave that lost love behind; laugh. Laughter, as they say, is the best medicine and, after a breakup, you need it in large doses. Laughing releases endorphins in your body that will make you feel good and lift your spirits too, which is important right now.
Russ Whitney laughs a lot today, and every day, and so should you. It will make your heart feel lighter, trust us.
A blog we ran back at the beginning of the year goes well with today’s. It’s titled “Love Lessons from Love Lost” and it will help you if you’ve recently gone through a breakup. Enjoy.
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